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Artificial contraception is one of the most potent disintegrating factors of marital harmony. Spouses who use contraception in their marriage are increasingly likely to find themselves drifting apart. When they introduce contraception something changes at the most fundamental level of their relationship.
Discover what some very honest couples experienced when they used the pill. It's not all it's cracked up to be. Apart from the breast cancer, cervical cancer, blood clots and infertility, these other side effects won't be found on the packet.
"Once we started using contraception, our sexual relationship changed from an act of marital union to a lust-filled activity... I no longer saw my wife as a person - I lost respect for her... Mary was left there not feeling good... I wanted a good sex life and no hassle..." Tom, Husband
"I'd grown bored with all this intercourse. Its availability every night meant it lost its specialness... there was a serious temptation to think about other women during our intimate moments... a sense of looking for fulfilment elsewhere... " Gerard, Husband
"After my tubes were tied, I felt so empty. Lovemaking with my husband became purposeless and lost its meaning. Our marriage bed was no longer holy or sacred, but... hedonistic". Wife
"During this time I felt really low, really cheap. There was no communication, no hugging. It was all about intercourse. It wasn't love. It was horrible. My self-confidence plummeted..." Mary, Wife
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From the 1500s to 1930, ALL the mainline Protestant denominations opposed contraception(1). However, there is a new modern day surge against contraception in Protestant circles (2, 3, 4).
"For too long birth control has been looked upon as a 'Catholic issue'. It is fast becoming a 'Protestant issue' however, as Protestant ministers like myself protest the heretical teaching of birth control that is being propagated in Protestant churches. We must understand that the Church, whether Catholic, Protestant or Orthodox, spoke consistently for 1900 years against birth control. Only in the last 75 years have Protestant churches begun to peddle this belief that God thinks it's okay or wise for us to use birth control." Rev Matthew Trewella(3).
Marriage is a Sacrament. Marriage is a great blessing from God (5). Married couples are called to "Be fruitful and multiply, and fill the earth and subdue it" (6).
Spouses are called to prayerfully discern God's will for their family size in accordance with the principles of prudent, generous and responsible parenthood (7).
Children are a blessing from God to married couples (8). Statistical research indicates the presence of a young child in the house meant a 30% lower divorce rate for couples married between 5-15 years (9).
Contracepting couples play God. THEY decide when a human being comes into existence, not God (10). Using contraception directly contradicts God's will and His plan for marriage (11). Users 'take control' of when a child is conceived using artificial means whilst pushing God out. Contraceptive use is a grave sin (12).
"Things had definitely changed... there was a widening rift - a breakdown in communication... we were developing different interests.. the intimate part of our marriage seemed to be dying... we didn't feel important to one another any more... " Marie, Wife
A striking link between the use of artificial contraception and divorce rates is highlighted by social science research (13). In the USA, where 64% of women use artificial contraception there is a current divorce / separation rate of 43%-50% (14,15).
In contrast, divorce rates of 3% - 8% are reported amongst users of natural family planning (NFP) (16,17,18).
Why is there such a distinct difference in rate of marital breakdown between artificial contraception users and NFP users exists? Read on.
"True conjugal love unites, contraception separates, and the separation works right down the line. It not only separates sex from procreation, it also separates sex from love. It separates pleasure from meaning, and body from mind. Ultimately and surely, it separates wife from husband and husband from wife" C. Burke 37
"Guarantee your marital happiness by practicing Natural Family Planning!" (19)
Other experts in the field claim:
"... a 5% divorce rate among couples practicing NFP is really the outside maximum limit" (20).
Extravagant claims? Let's look at the evidence. Modern Natural Family Planning is now a thoroughly researched biological, clinical science that has been very highly refined. It can be used very effectively to space childbearing by any couple irrespective of religion, race or class. It works on the principle of identifying a wife's peak fertile days each month.
Effective child spacing can be achieved by NFP when circumstances are serious enough to warrant its use. Studies reveal up to 99.7% effectiveness for postponing pregnancy (21, 22, 23, 24).
The practice of NFP is proven to significantly improve marital harmony and marital stability (25, 26, 27, 28). It is precisely the exercise of periodic abstinence each month that enhances and strengthens spouses marital love, commitment, mutual respect and communication.
One husband writes:
"NFP wiped away the boredom that had entered our marriage with the pill. It was precisely the abstinence entailed each month in NFP that fuelled and renewed my great desire and love for my wife" - Gerard, Husband
"I felt more loved and cherished when we started to use NFP. I can see how a woman using contraception could feel used" Marie, wife
"Happiness flows - no, it floods when you embrace the will of God" - Roberta, wife
"I see NFP as an important contributor to my ongoing growth as a male and to marital happiness. It challenged me to self-mastery so that I can freely give myself" Husband
"My husband now respects me as a person in my own right. He accepts my fertility as part of me." Wife
"NFP, when both spouses are actively participating, brings God into the bedroom, sanctifies your lovemaking, and keeps the mystery in sex." - Beth, wife
International Planned Parenthood Federation (IPPF) is the leading worldwide advocate of contraception and abortion. IPPF was founded in 1952 by Margaret Sanger (1879-1966).
Margaret Sanger espoused targeting and elimination of certain races and colours of people (Jews, Latins, Slavs, Afro-Caribeans, Hispanics, Catholics). She detested men, marriage, large families, was involved in the occult and openly hated Christianity (30). IPPF works through local family planning associations.
"The sacrament of the Eucharist and the Sacrament of Penance play a fundamental role in... (the)...path towards marital and domestic holiness" (35).
Happiness and marital harmony are truly achievable when couples seek to faithfully follow God's laws (36).
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